If It Doesn’t Exist, Create It

I need to speak into something. Actually, I need to speak something into existence.

A couple of months ago, I chose to step away from social media almost completely. I removed the apps from my phone, including the messengers attached to them. My accounts still exist, and every now and then I’ll log in and glance — and when I say glance, I mean exactly that. There’s no pull to scroll. No urge to keep up. No desire to perform.

It wasn’t dramatic. It wasn’t reactive. It was intentional.

I was tired of fighting algorithms designed to keep us hooked rather than connected. The Center for Humane Technology explains that social platforms are built to maximize engagement, often amplifying outrage and emotional triggers because that keeps users online longer. That isn’t a conspiracy — it’s a business model. And I’m not trying to go viral.

I’m trying to teach. To share. To create a space where growth feels honest and mutual.

For me, it isn’t about popularity. It’s about filtering out conditioning and honoring boundaries — something our culture often struggles with. The American Psychological Association has reported links between heavy social media use and increased anxiety, comparison, and social fatigue, especially when identity becomes tied to validation.

When the system rewards performance over presence, authenticity gets distorted.

We talk about being authentic, but when the environment itself pushes us out of alignment — when visibility becomes more important than integrity — it defeats the entire purpose.

So instead of bending myself to fit the system, I started experimenting with creating my own atmosphere. If it doesn’t exist and you want it, create it.

I’ve realized I can build this space on my own website — free from trends, shadow bans, and constant algorithm shifts — and invite others into something more intentional while still honoring the boundaries we each carry. I’ve also grown to love Voxer because it allows real voice connection without performance. It requires meeting halfway. There’s depth there. Intention. Presence. Even email, helpful as it is, has its own algorithmic layers. Messages land in spam. Open rates fluctuate. Technology still mediates connection.

And that brings me to the question I’ve been sitting with:

How do you grow something without playing the game you stepped away from?

I could return to social media and promote constantly, but then it becomes noise — the very energy I left behind.

This is how I process. Out loud. In real time. And I’m not ashamed of that.

I’ve quietly connected with many people who feel this shift too. It’s not that social media is inherently bad — it’s an incredible tool. But culturally it has grown louder, more polarized, more performative.

Research published in Current Opinion in Psychology shows that passive scrolling is more strongly linked to loneliness and comparison than intentional, active interaction. Connection is not the same as consumption.

So what am I creating?

A community where honesty meets accountability.

Where truth can be given and received with grace.

Where vulnerability doesn’t require over-explanation.

Where acceptance coexists with growth.

A space where you’re allowed to be in your moment without being defined by it.

A space where wisdom is shared with those willing to embody it — not just consume it.

It may not be fast. It may not be loud. It may never be viral.

But it will be intentional.

And maybe that’s the point.

If it doesn’t exist, create it — and trust that the ones meant for it will find their way.

If you do want to connect or speak into something download Voxer (Andriod nad IPhone), create an account and add mlmbrt999. If you want to be a part of the community, join the Inner Circle within my website. There are other various topics available to choose from as well.