Why You’re Not Broken—You’re Just Conditioned (And How to Undo That!)
- Meghan Lambert
- Feb 14
- 3 min read
Raise your hand if you’ve ever felt personally victimized by self-doubt.
You’re out here, living your life, trying to be your best self, and yet… something feels off. Maybe you struggle with feeling worthy no matter how much you accomplish. Maybe you don’t really know who you are, and every time someone asks, "What do you want in life?" you want to scream into the void.
Before you diagnose yourself with being a hopeless mess, let me introduce you to two little troublemakers: your undefined (or open) G center and Heart center.
These two energy centers can make you feel like a walking contradiction, and thanks to years of conditioning, they might even have you convinced you’re broken. But spoiler alert: you’re not. You’re just conditioned. And today, we’re going to start undoing that nonsense.
The Undefined G Center: Who Even Am I?!
If you have an undefined (or open) G center, you might have spent your life wondering who you are, where you belong, and why you feel like a different person depending on who you’re around.
The conditioning trap: Society loves a solid, unshakable sense of identity. It wants you to "find yourself" and stick with that version of you forever. But if your G center is undefined, your identity is fluid, and that’s not a problem. The real problem? Feeling like you should be a certain way, picking up personas to please people, and trying to force a fixed direction when you’re literally designed to evolve.
How to decondition:
Stop trying to "figure yourself out." You are ALL the versions of you. That’s your magic.
Focus on where you are, not who you are. The right environment brings out the best in you.
Stop shape-shifting to fit in. The right people won’t need you to morph into a different version of yourself.
The Undefined Heart Center: The Never-Enough Struggle
Ah, the Heart center—home to willpower, self-worth, and the need to prove yourself. If yours is undefined, you’ve likely spent your life feeling like you have something to prove.
The conditioning trap: Hustle culture has made willpower seem like a personality trait, and if you don’t have an endless supply, you might think you’re lazy or undisciplined. But here’s the truth: you were never meant to rely on willpower alone. And yet, because the world screams "Prove yourself! Work harder! Be the best!", you’ve probably fallen into cycles of overcommitting, over-delivering, and then collapsing from burnout.
How to decondition:
Stop proving, start being. Your worth isn’t tied to your achievements.
Work in cycles, not force. You don’t have consistent willpower, and that’s okay.
Rest isn’t a reward; it’s a necessity. Stop feeling guilty for taking breaks.
You Were Never Broken
So, let’s recap: If you have an undefined G or Heart center (or both), you might have felt lost, unworthy, inconsistent, or like you never quite measure up. But all of that is just conditioning. You were never broken, and you don’t need fixing.
What you do need is permission to be who you are, trust your own flow, and start unlearning the BS that made you doubt yourself in the first place.
So next time you feel like you’re spiraling into self-doubt, remind yourself: It’s not you. It’s conditioning. And conditioning can be undone.
Now, go be your beautifully inconsistent, unconditionally worthy self. The world needs you.
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